Guidelines to PARENTS

 

This is not for all parents, only for few…

Most of the parents don’t care about the presence of children, they talk, behave whatever and however they want and these parents likes the children to behave properly, learn good things, etc.

 

Did parents are making their children to learn good things with their behavior at home?

Are these parents are not observing their child when they are fighting or abusing themselves in-front their child?

What these so and so parents are thinking? Are their children not observing the stuff?

Don’t they know what the words they are using?

 

Remember one thing, “As is the parent, so are the children…”

 

Children mind-set and hobbies depends on the surrounding’s they live, friends they meet, the blood they have or they carry from parent-hood, the situations they are facing etc...

 

Parents keep over estimations on the children which is wrong, over protecting is wrong, over caring is wrong, over expectations are wrong. There should be some limit for everything.

Under-estimating is also wrong, not caring, not bothering is wrong.

Giving lectures to the child is easy, but the parent is not trying to teach the children. Parents don’t have faith on their own children… Once a child is failed, then a parent consider this child as a life time failure... They never try to know the reason behind the failure, they just keep on accusing and they remind the same in future again and again which hurts the child.

 

Parents accuse, abuse, shout, scold, beat, punish, lecture to their children but they will never try to make the children to understand in a proper way with sweet or nice words, so the children listen to them.

 

Of course, children do some wrong or naughty things but the way the parents treating the children is not right...

Let the children face the obstacles, they will try to learn from the obstacles. Don’t just leave them like that for the first time, second time or third time, the only thing the parent need to do is, teach the children to face the obstacle with patience, techniques, smart ways etc. Make them to face the obstacles when they get any in future.

Once the child missed/slipped out from the hands of a parent, then no one can stop them or reach them. They might become a thief etc. So be careful with them.

 

Stop doing non-sense and stop insulting the child in-front of others...

Stop saying negative things about children to others.

 

Before doing this, parents must know that...

The world is a circle. If you do good, good things return back.

The way the parent treats their child, the same way the child treat them back in future.

 

There are many ways to resolve the issues or concerns.

Be good with the children but not too good.

Get change in you and make change in your children.

 

What did you studied?

Are you doing the same job which is related to your studies?

What’s your marks percentage?

Are your parents supported and encouraged in your interests/wishes/dreams?

What are the other courses you did from institutions for your job career?

Did you really loved your studies? Don’t you have any other plans/dreams to fulfill?

Are you encouraging and supporting your child interests/ideas?

Do you know what your child like or want to become?

 

If the answer is no, then why you parents are expecting the same? Expect but not over expect. If the children is doing great, just feel proud but not over proud.

Why I am asking these questions because, still the parents are doing the same mistake with their children and that’s not fare…

Parents failed to become what they want, hence they want their child to become what the parent want instead the children want. Parents don’t care about the dreams and interests of their children.

 

He who can reach the child’s heart, can reach the worlds heart…